A training kit on the council of good character
In order to address lying in children, each case must be studied separately, investigating the true motive driving the lying, and whether it is lying intended to protect oneself out of fear of punishment, or intended to protect a friend and cover for them.
Tips for overcoming children's lying:
We must determine whether lying is an occasional occurrence or a permanent presence.
We must recognise that lying may be a symptom, and may be accompanied by other symptoms, such as stealing, excessive sensitivity, or excessive nervousness, and here the motives and psychological needs that led to the emergence of these problems must be investigated.
There is no use in treating lying through beating, deprivation, or defamation and mockery, as these methods do not yield results with children's lying.
Treatment must begin with the surrounding environment, as children must be taught honesty through the good example set by their parents.
Parents must recognise that children's repeated lying occurs when the child feels unloved or in a case of loss of self-confidence.
We must allow the child reasonable opportunities for adventure and to step outside the familiar framework from time to time, as excessive restriction of the child drives them to constantly attempt to escape, and so they lie to cover up their secret adventures.
The child must live in a flexible, tolerant environment, and if they commit any mistake, they should be able to ask for forgiveness at any time without reprimand or punishment.
Target group
Children from 6 to 11 years old
Children's teachers, parents, and educational counsellors.